The easiest way to text your bar mitzvah guests.
Text the service, the kiddush and the party in one invite, collect RSVPs for each, and send hotel and timing details to relatives flying in.
10 free texts to try it · No app for guests · No credit card
One bar mitzvah weekend, three events, one guest list.
A bar mitzvah is rarely one event. There's Friday-night dinner for family, the Shabbat morning service and kiddush, then an evening party with its own list. Texting lets you invite each guest to the parts they're invited to, collect answers through one RSVP link, and send timing before services start, when phones go away.
Service and party, one RSVP
Your RSVP form can ask which events each guest will attend, so the kiddush and party counts stay separate.
Texts before phones go away
Schedule the morning text for 8am so guests have the time and parking before the sanctuary doors close.
Out-of-town family covered
Send the hotel block, Friday dinner details and shuttle times only to the relatives who are traveling.
Bar mitzvah text message templates
Copy, tweak the details, and send to your whole guest list in one tap.
Save the date! Eli Brenner will be called to the Torah as a bar mitzvah on Sat May 15, 2027 in Newton. Invitation and hotel info to follow.
Please join us as Eli becomes a bar mitzvah, Sat May 15, 9:30am at Temple Beth Israel, kiddush to follow. RSVP: textmyevent.com/s/eli
Good Shabbat! Services begin at 9:30. Lot behind the temple fills fast, so use the school lot on Walnut. Kiddush lunch at 12:30.
Tonight's the party! Doors at 7 at the Riverside Ballroom. Kids eat in the Dugout Room, adults in the main hall. Wear sneakers for the hora.
When to text your bar mitzvah guests
A simple schedule from first announcement to thank-you. Write every text up front and schedule it.
- 1
6–8 months before
Share the weekend with family and anyone who has to fly, along with the hotel block, before rooms book up.
Save the date templates → - 2
8 weeks before
Send the invitation with the service, kiddush and party, and the RSVP link with a which-events question.
Invitation templates → - 3
4 weeks before
Nudge anyone who hasn't answered. The caterer and the party venue both need final counts soon.
RSVP templates → - 4
1 week before
Send the full weekend schedule to travelers: Friday dinner, Saturday service, kiddush and party, with addresses.
Reminder templates → - 5
Saturday, 8am
Start time, parking and a reminder that phones stay away in the sanctuary.
Reminder templates → - 6
Saturday evening
Party doors, the kids' room, the shuttle from the hotel and any last change.
Group text templates → - 7
Day after
Thank everyone, share the service livestream recording and photos from the party.
Group text templates →
What texting your bar mitzvah costs
For about 120 guests. One payment per event, no subscription. Guest replies don’t use up your texts.
Just the invite
120 guests × 1 text = 120 texts
$57Starter, once
120 of 500 texts
Invite + a reminder
120 guests × 2 texts = 240 texts
$57Starter, once
240 of 500 texts
The full schedule
120 guests × 7 texts = 840 texts
$87Plus, once
840 of 1,200 texts
Start with Starter and upgrade later for just the difference ($30 more for Plus). Try it first with 10 free texts to your own phone. Compare all plans
Set up your bar mitzvah in minutes.
Add family, temple friends and Eli's class
Paste numbers from your phone and group them as family, adults and kids' parents, so each group gets the right events.
Send one invite with every event
Write the invite or start from a template, add a which-events question and the hotel link to your RSVP form, and schedule the Shabbat morning text.
Watch the kiddush and party counts fill in
Answers from your link add up per event, and questions about rides or the hotel land in the inbox you and your spouse share.
Bar mitzvah texting questions
Can guests RSVP separately for the service and the party?
Yes. Add a multiple-choice question to your RSVP form, like Friday dinner, Saturday service and kiddush, Saturday party, and each guest picks the ones they'll attend. Your counts stay separate per event.
How do I reach guests when phones are off during services?
Schedule your texts for before services start and after they end. A morning text with parking and the start time goes out at 8am, and the party details can wait until Shabbat ends.
Can I send different details to the party-only guests?
Yes. Group your list, for example family, Eli's friends, and party-only, and send each group only the events and times that apply to them.
Will relatives in Canada get the texts?
Yes, Text My Event sends to US and Canadian (+1) mobile numbers. Guests get a regular text, so grandparents don't need an app or an account to see the hotel block or RSVP.
Do my guests need to download an app?
No. Guests get a normal text message on the phone they already use and reply the same way. Nothing to install and no account to create.
Can guests see each other's replies?
No. Each guest gets their own text, not a group chat, so their number and replies stay private. Replies come back to your Text My Event inbox, where you and your co-hosts can answer.
Can a co-host help manage the event?
Yes. Invite co-hosts to your event and they share the same guest list, scheduled texts, and replies inbox.
How much does it cost?
Your first event includes 10 free texts to try it on your own phone. To text guests you pay once per event, with no subscription: Lite $19 for 50 texts, Starter $57 for 500 texts, Plus $87 for 1,200 texts, Premium $137 for 2,000 texts. If you need more texts later, moving to a bigger plan costs only the difference.
How long does my event stay active?
Your texts belong to that event and stay available until 60 days after it ends. Guest photos and videos stay up for the same window.
What happens if a guest replies STOP?
They're opted out right away and skipped on future sends, so you never have to track it. They can reply START to resume.
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