The easiest way to text your bat mitzvah guests.
Invite family to the service, Talia's friends to the party, and parents to the party bus, each over plain text, with every RSVP counted in one place.
10 free texts to try it · No app for guests · No credit card
Bat mitzvah invites for the family and the seventh grade.
A bat mitzvah guest list is really two: relatives and family friends for the service and kiddush, and a class of 12- and 13-year-olds for the party, reached through their parents. Texting gets the right details to each, from candle-lighting honors for an aunt to party bus pickup for a parent, and every answer comes back to your RSVP link.
Two lists, the right details
Send family the service and kiddush, and send kids' parents the party, bus times and pickup.
Candle-lighting honorees, asked early
Text the relatives you're calling up for a candle so they're ready with a few words and in the room.
Mitzvah project in the invite
Add a link button for Talia's shelter drive, so guests can bring supplies instead of a gift.
Bat mitzvah text message templates
Copy, tweak the details, and send to your whole guest list in one tap.
Save the date! Talia Gold becomes a bat mitzvah on Sat Oct 23, 2027 at Congregation Shir Hadash in Evanston. Invitation this summer.
Please join us as Talia becomes a bat mitzvah, Sat Oct 23 at 10am, Shir Hadash, then dinner and dancing at 6:30pm. RSVP: textmyevent.com/s/talia
Aunt Miriam, we'd love you to light the 5th candle at Talia's party. It's around 8pm, and a sentence or two is perfect. Reply with any questions!
Parents: the kids' party bus leaves Shir Hadash at 6:00 and returns at 10:45. Please add your child's cell on the RSVP form: textmyevent.com/s/talia-kids
When to text your bat mitzvah guests
A simple schedule from first announcement to thank-you. Write every text up front and schedule it.
- 1
6 months before
Tell family and out-of-town friends the date, so they can book flights and the hotel.
Save the date templates → - 2
8–10 weeks before
Send the family invitation, and a separate party invite to classmates' parents with the bus details.
Invitation templates → - 3
5 weeks before
Text your candle-lighting honorees personally and confirm each one can be there.
RSVP templates → - 4
3 weeks before
Nudge non-responders. The venue needs the kids' and adults' table counts and the bus company needs riders.
RSVP templates → - 5
Friday afternoon
Shabbat dinner time and place for family, plus the Saturday schedule.
Reminder templates → - 6
Saturday, 9am
Service time and parking, sent before guests reach the sanctuary and put phones away.
Reminder templates → - 7
Saturday evening
Party bus departure to parents, then the return time and pickup spot.
Group text templates → - 8
What texting your bat mitzvah costs
For about 140 guests. One payment per event, no subscription. Guest replies don’t use up your texts.
Just the invite
140 guests × 1 text = 140 texts
$57Starter, once
140 of 500 texts
Invite + a reminder
140 guests × 2 texts = 280 texts
$57Starter, once
280 of 500 texts
The full schedule
140 guests × 8 texts = 1,120 texts
$87Plus, once
1,120 of 1,200 texts. Close to Plus's limit.
Start with Starter and upgrade later for just the difference ($30 more for Plus). Try it first with 10 free texts to your own phone. Compare all plans
Set up your bat mitzvah in minutes.
Split family from Talia's friends' parents
Paste numbers into two groups: relatives and adult friends for the service, and parents of classmates for the party and bus.
Send each group its own invite
Write each invite or start from a template, add a which-events question and a party-bus question to the RSVP form, and schedule bus reminders for party day.
Count bus riders and dinner guests
Answers from your link give you separate counts for the service, the party and the bus, and parents' questions land in one shared inbox.
Bat mitzvah texting questions
How do I invite the kids without texting 12-year-olds directly?
Text the parents. Put the party, bus times and pickup in their invite, and ask for each child's name, allergies and a contact cell on the RSVP form.
Can I ask some guests to light a candle?
Yes. Send a personal text to each candle-lighting honoree with their candle number and the rough time. Their replies come back privately to your inbox, so you can confirm one by one.
Our community holds bat mitzvahs at 12 or on a different day. Does that change anything?
No. Whether it's a Saturday morning service at 13, a Havdalah service, or a Sunday celebration at 12, you set the date, times and wording, and schedule the texts around it.
Can I share Talia's mitzvah project with guests?
Yes. Paste the donation or wish-list link into your invite, or add it as a link button on your RSVP page so guests can tap straight to it.
Do my guests need to download an app?
No. Guests get a normal text message on the phone they already use and reply the same way. Nothing to install and no account to create.
Can guests see each other's replies?
No. Each guest gets their own text, not a group chat, so their number and replies stay private. Replies come back to your Text My Event inbox, where you and your co-hosts can answer.
Can a co-host help manage the event?
Yes. Invite co-hosts to your event and they share the same guest list, scheduled texts, and replies inbox.
How much does it cost?
Your first event includes 10 free texts to try it on your own phone. To text guests you pay once per event, with no subscription: Lite $19 for 50 texts, Starter $57 for 500 texts, Plus $87 for 1,200 texts, Premium $137 for 2,000 texts. If you need more texts later, moving to a bigger plan costs only the difference.
Which countries are supported?
Text My Event sends to US and Canadian (+1) mobile numbers, in English.
How long does my event stay active?
Your texts belong to that event and stay available until 60 days after it ends. Guest photos and videos stay up for the same window.
What happens if a guest replies STOP?
They're opted out right away and skipped on future sends, so you never have to track it. They can reply START to resume.
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