Collect bar mitzvah RSVPs by text.
Text bar mitzvah guests your RSVP link — no app, no login. They answer in a tap and their responses add up in your headcount, while anything they text back lands in one shared inbox.
10 free texts to try it · No app for guests · No credit card
Bar mitzvah RSVPs, tracked in one place.
Chasing bar mitzvah RSVPs across texts, emails and DMs is a headache. Send one text with your RSVP link: guests answer a short form, responses add up in one headcount, and questions they text back land in a shared inbox — no spreadsheet.
How to RSVP to a bar mitzvah by text
Got an invite by text? Here's how to reply so the host can count you in.
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Reply to the invite text
Answer in the same thread the invite came from, or tap the RSVP link if there is one. You don't need an app or an account.
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Lead with yes or no
Put your answer in the first few words so the host can count it at a glance.
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Say who's coming
Give names and a headcount, including kids or a plus-one if the invite covers them.
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Add what the host needs
Mention allergies or dietary needs, and answer anything the invite asked.
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Reply by the RSVP date
Not sure yet? Say when you'll know. If plans change later, text the host again right away.
RSVP replies you can copy
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Service and party, one RSVP
Your RSVP form can ask which events each guest will attend, so the kiddush and party counts stay separate.
Texts before phones go away
Schedule the morning text for 8am so guests have the time and parking before the sanctuary doors close.
Out-of-town family covered
Send the hotel block, Friday dinner details and shuttle times only to the relatives who are traveling.
Bar mitzvah RSVP text templates
Copy, tweak the details, and send to your whole guest list in one tap.
So glad you're coming to Eli's bar mitzvah! On the RSVP link, tick Fri dinner, Sat service, and/or the party so we count you right: textmyevent.com/s/eli
Bringing the kids to the party? Add each name and any allergies on the RSVP form. Kids have their own room and menu: textmyevent.com/s/eli
Hi Steve! The caterer needs our kiddush and party counts by Apr 20. Could you RSVP when you get a minute? textmyevent.com/s/eli
Thanks for your RSVP to the party! Please pick salmon, chicken or vegetarian on the form so the Riverside kitchen can plan: textmyevent.com/s/eli
Saw your RSVP, thank you! Need a room? The Courtyard block closes Apr 15. Reply here if you'd rather we book it for you.
When to collect bar mitzvah RSVPs
Where these texts fit in your schedule. Write them up front and schedule them.
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8 weeks before
Send the invitation with the service, kiddush and party, and the RSVP link with a which-events question.
Invitation templates → - 2
4 weeks before
Nudge anyone who hasn't answered. The caterer and the party venue both need final counts soon.
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1 week before
Send the full weekend schedule to travelers: Friday dinner, Saturday service, kiddush and party, with addresses.
Reminder templates → - 4
Saturday, 8am
Start time, parking and a reminder that phones stay away in the sanctuary.
Reminder templates →
What texting your bar mitzvah costs
For about 120 guests. One payment per event, no subscription. Guest replies don’t use up your texts.
Just the invite
120 guests × 1 text = 120 texts
$57Starter, once
120 of 500 texts
Invite + a reminder
120 guests × 2 texts = 240 texts
$57Starter, once
240 of 500 texts
The full schedule
120 guests × 7 texts = 840 texts
$87Plus, once
840 of 1,200 texts
Start with Starter and upgrade later for just the difference ($30 more for Plus). Try it first with 10 free texts to your own phone. Compare all plans
Set up your bar mitzvah in minutes.
Add family, temple friends and Eli's class
Paste numbers from your phone and group them as family, adults and kids' parents, so each group gets the right events.
Send one invite with every event
Write the invite or start from a template, add a which-events question and the hotel link to your RSVP form, and schedule the Shabbat morning text.
Watch the kiddush and party counts fill in
Answers from your link add up per event, and questions about rides or the hotel land in the inbox you and your spouse share.
Bar mitzvah texting questions
How do I RSVP to a bar mitzvah by text?
Reply to the invitation text by the RSVP date. Start with yes or no, say who's coming, and add anything the host asked for, like allergies. If the invite includes an RSVP link, you can tap that instead. You don't need an app.
When should I follow up on bar mitzvah RSVPs?
4 weeks before: Nudge anyone who hasn't answered. The caterer and the party venue both need final counts soon.
Can guests RSVP separately for the service and the party?
Yes. Add a multiple-choice question to your RSVP form, like Friday dinner, Saturday service and kiddush, Saturday party, and each guest picks the ones they'll attend. Your counts stay separate per event.
How do I reach guests when phones are off during services?
Schedule your texts for before services start and after they end. A morning text with parking and the start time goes out at 8am, and the party details can wait until Shabbat ends.
Can I send different details to the party-only guests?
Yes. Group your list, for example family, Eli's friends, and party-only, and send each group only the events and times that apply to them.
Will relatives in Canada get the texts?
Yes, Text My Event sends to US and Canadian (+1) mobile numbers. Guests get a regular text, so grandparents don't need an app or an account to see the hotel block or RSVP.
Do my guests need to download an app?
No. Guests get a normal text message on the phone they already use and reply the same way. Nothing to install and no account to create.
Can guests see each other's replies?
No. Each guest gets their own text, not a group chat, so their number and replies stay private. Replies come back to your Text My Event inbox, where you and your co-hosts can answer.
Can a co-host help manage the event?
Yes. Invite co-hosts to your event and they share the same guest list, scheduled texts, and replies inbox.
How much does it cost?
Your first event includes 10 free texts to try it on your own phone. To text guests you pay once per event, with no subscription: Lite $19 for 50 texts, Starter $57 for 500 texts, Plus $87 for 1,200 texts, Premium $137 for 2,000 texts. If you need more texts later, moving to a bigger plan costs only the difference.
How long does my event stay active?
Your texts belong to that event and stay available until 60 days after it ends. Guest photos and videos stay up for the same window.
What happens if a guest replies STOP?
They're opted out right away and skipped on future sends, so you never have to track it. They can reply START to resume.
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