The polite no-show nudge that doesn't feel pushy

How to follow up with guests who went quiet without nagging — exact wording included.

There's an art to the follow-up. Too soon and you're pushy; too late and you've missed the caterer's deadline. The trick is one warm, low-pressure nudge — sent only to the people who actually went quiet.

Only message the non-repliers

The reason most follow-ups feel naggy is that they go to everyone, including the guests who already said yes. With a shared inbox you can see exactly who hasn't replied and message just them.

Give them an easy out

"No rush," "whenever you get a sec," and a friendly tone do the heavy lifting. You're not demanding an answer — you're making it effortless to give one.

Send it once, to the right people, and watch the last few replies trickle in.